Ok ladies. Mom's, Lady Friends, Aunties, and Daughters this important message is for you. If you weren't already aware, the holidays are swiftly approaching like a thief in the night, but I need you to guard your sanity and your secured funds like you never have before. Here are five things we are NOT doing this season.
5. Pleasing Everyone At Our Own Expense
It's okay if you cannot make every holiday party or buy a gift for every single one of your rental relatives. This season, take comfort and joy in saying, "Thanks for the invite, but I won't be in attendance." or "Just wanted to tell you in advance that I won't be splurging on gifts this year." In the words of the great Dr. Seuss, Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. Those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.
4. Spending the Bill Money on Our Honey
Now when I say honey, I'm not just talking about your spouse/significant other/boo. Those bright-eyed children of our wombs get lumped in here as well. If you didn't start shopping in August and you already know that funds are always tight, now is not the time to risk it all. Your children won't love you any less if you give them 4 gifts instead of 40, ESPECIALLY if you are open with them. Set limitations NOW, especially if you have multiple individuals who share your everlasting unquestioned affection. Agree upon a gift spending limit between you and your boo. Watch how much sexier you become to them. Mom's of multiples, think about one big ticket item that all the kids can share and give them the option of two special gifts or a gift card. Watch the stress of holiday shopping become a mere memory and your relationships become more authentic.
I know. I know. We do not LITERALLY go to sleep for the entire Holiday Season, BUT we do happen to sleep on our health and wellness. We are NOT going to pile up all the plates from all the gatherings this year. We are not going to overindulge in all of the sweet treats and libations and then sit and tear ourselves apart in the mirror. That's a no sis. A firm no.
2. Put Christmas on Credit
PLEEEEAAAASSSEEE! For the love of credit karma, don't you dare pull out the plastic for decorations, decor, or Drake posters if you know you won''t be able to pay it off within 30 days of the purchase. Christmas gifts are good for a season. Your credit will follow you all the days of your life.
1. Forgetting Ourselves on the Gift List
Sis! You've worked hard all year and despite what you may or may not be aware of, you set the bar for how you should be treated. I'm not saying you should go out and get yourself the priciest prettiest item you can post on the gram however, gift yourself some quiet, a massage a mani/pedi... do you get my drift? Give yourself the gift of time alone. You deserve it.
Just a Friendly Reminder
As cliche' as it may sound, the greatest gift you can give is your presence. This holiday season, take an intermittent media fast, eat what you love in moderation, hit the gym with your girls, make memories you only capture in your mind, and go easy on yourself and your wallet. What you are going to do this holiday season is thrive.